Monday, March 3, 2008

Let’s Be Good Parents

According to Sellgren (2007), a mother, Paulette, said that “Bringing up a child is the most important thing you have to do” (p.1). Nowadays many parents encounter many problems when they deal with their children. Actually, due to the fact that children spend much time at school and parents are always busy to do their jobs; therefore, they do not have time to get along with each other. In fact, some professional people suggest that the government should set up the parenting classes that can offer the advice and information to parents. There are three reasons why parents have to take parenting classes: parents have to learn how to stay with your children at home, how to repair the generation gap, and how to play a nice role with your children.

First of all, parenting classes can teach parents how to stay with children at home. In fact parents have to work for a long time that results in reducing time to know their children more and also children spend a lot of time at school or conference. Therefore, not only parents but also children become uninterested with each other. It is important for parents to take classes that can help them to solve their problems and teach them how to hit it off with children. For example, the classes could teach parents how to communicate with children. In addition, parents can learn what children like and they can understand children more. Moreover, parents and children just have three to four hours to talk and share their feeling everyday that lead to become emotionless with each other. If parents attend the parenting classes, they can not only learn how to get along with children but also know what the best way to bring up with children is. For instance, parents can learn what are the most popular television programs and computer games in class. They can have the same topic to talk and share ideas; thus, it will be easy for parents to know what children think. Again, the classes will give a lot of suggestions and information about school and education that teach parents how to relate to their children at home.

Next, taking parents lessons can repair the generation gap. The classes can teach people how to understand children’s ideas and thinking. In fact, we all know that young people who are 12 to 18 have their own thoughts and also they feel that parents cannot understand what they think. Children and parents do not like the same things because of their different ages and experience. For example, Sometimes children do not understand why their parents like the stupid things such as clothes’ style or strange activities. If parents take the parenting courses, they would teach parents what activities children like such as singing, shopping, and bowling. Furthermore, because of the generation gap, parents do not know how to punish children and how to handle the struggle with children. Due to these problems, the parenting classes will be suited for parents. This is an example, in “Domestic violence-you and your kids” the author told parents that “Try to show that you understand the child’s feeling” (Hayes, 2003, p.2). Parents should be polite and patient to deal with children’s problems. In short, if parents can attend the classes, they will know many approaches and advices that can solve their generation gap.

Last, parents should take parenting courses in order to play a better parent’s role. Actually, they do not have experience and do not understand how to teach different age’s children, so they have to attend parenting classes which can help them to teach different age’s children. For instance, not only taking parenting classes can learn how to treat teenagers like an adult, also parents will build good bridge to talk to children as well. In addition, the best way for the new parents is participating the parenting classes that give them advice to play a successful role in family. Some people are from divorced or single family. At that moment, these parents need to take parenting classes that can help them to know and learn how to become a nice parent for their children. For example, when is the best time to help children who encounter problems? What is the best way to let children know that they do bad things? To sum up, if parents have the parenting classes, they will know how to play a successful parents role.

Opponents claim that parents should not take the parenting lessons due to that they feel embarrassing to attend the parenting classes and love is a natural thing for everyone. However, this argument is incomplete. Although parents feel uncomfortable with the classes they need to learn how to get along with their children and how to have nice relationship with children. For instance, if parents take classes, they can figure out what children think in their life such as importance of friends, school, and family. In addition, in some ways love comes from nature, but we also need to learn how to show our love to people. For example, they have to know how to understand and share their feeling and then they can know how to love more with each other. Parents can hold in children’s arms and say sweet words to children. In other words, through the parenting classes, parents can learn good and positive ways to love their children.

In conclusion, attending the parenting classes can help parents to become a successful parents because they want to learn ways that they must get along with their children, they must not have the generation rap, and they must play a good parents’ role in family. Indeed, according to Littlemore (2007), “any parent knows the questions, “how do you make your child do what they want?” is not so simply answer” (p.1). Many parents know that it is difficult to do good job to bring up their children. The best way is that parents need to take parenting classes that can give them the best training to become the best parents; hence, parents and children will have a nice relationship in their life.

References
Hayes, E. (2003, February). Domestic violence-you and your kids: Parents as victims of domestic violence. BBC News. Retrieved January 31, 2008, form http://news.bbc.co.uk/relationship/domestic_violence/kidshh_indes21.shtml

Littlemore, S. (2007, December 20). Learning how to be a good parent. BBC News. Retrieved January 31, 2008, form http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/uk_news/Education/


Sellgren, K. (2007, December 23). Parenting classes attract all. BBC News. Retrieved January 31, 2008, from http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/uk_news/education/

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